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The hazy glow of infatuation has a way of making everything they say and do seem more wonderful than it actually is.
This is lovely, but does nothing to test how reality will feel when the glow has worn off and the day-to-day business of working things out as a couple sets in. Can you disagree and find a route to working it out and still like each other?
I’ve been getting into it recently with some readers who have a slightly different take on when people should get engaged. One reader on my Facebook page wrote: “When a man’s in love he wants to propose as soon as he can.” Needless to say, I disagree with that. If you expect your marriage to be otherwise, you’ve got a big surprise waiting for you.
There are MANY men who propose as soon as they can when they’re in love. In it, Professor Ted Huston studies 168 couples for ten years. “Researchers saw some typical changes that take place in all marriages during the first couple of years: fewer overt displays of affection; less sex; and fewer leisure activities together, as the relationship evolves from a romantic, recreational relationship to something like a working partnership.” This is all normal and predictable, says the married dating coach.
I would argue that, say, over 35 years-old, people need less than 2 years pre-proposal because they know themselves better than do the young’uns.
When actress Kaley Cuoco announced that she was engaged to tennis star Ryan Sweeting after three months of dating, she joined a list of other celebs who were quick to get engaged.
•All marriages, even those that are happy in the long run, show declines over the first two years in marriage in the following categories: sex, overt displays of affection, and leisure activities spent together. But everything you read there, you could also have read here. My biggest takeaway is that if the courtship is smooth, the marriage will be as well.
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Long courtships, Huston argues, are rarely long because the partners are exercising due caution.Do you disagree because you have this one friend who met her soulmate, married him in six weeks and they’re still together twenty years later and they have sex twice a day? A man in love might want to propose as quickly as possible but he should have the wisdom and self-control to override that desire.Love is one thing, but a loving marriage is something else entirely.When you look at the celebrity world, you get the feeling that everyone leaps into marriage, only to be followed by a quick fizzle and divorce.It’s important to remember that celebrities are leading a very skewed lifestyle.